Our Guest John & Lisa Bevere
JOHN: And then the other thing is that there were dark, dark areas in my life that I didn’t even know were there, Sid, until adversity hit. So in other words when I was a young man I was very sheltered and protected by my mom who loved me. I was my son, my son. And then I get married and I’m not my son, my son, my son. I am now having to live a real life with somebody who also has dreams and visions and passions and all of a sudden I realize oh my gosh, there’s some real ugly control problems. Anger problems. You know meanness that I didn’t even know was there. And I remember one day I said God, where is this coming from? I mean I was never this way at home with my mom and dad.
SID: [LAUGHS]
JOHN: And God said to me He said son, when you look at gold that’s 14 karat gold that looks pure but when you put it in a furnace of 7000 degrees what happens? I said the impurities come to the surface. He said they appear, right? And I said yeah. And He said so they were in there but you couldn’t see them. I said yeah. He said John, where is all this stuff coming from? It’s always been in you. He said what’s happened is the furnace has exposed what was in you. Now you can blame your wife and He said it’ll go right back down in you or you can cry out to me and I’ll take it out. And I –
SID: I’ll tell you what? Hold that thought. We’re running out of time right now but when we come back I want to find out such things as what is the difference between what Hollywood portrays as marriage and what God says marriage is supposed to be.
SID: Sid Roth back here with John and Lisa Bevere for Something More! And Lisa, I have to ask you what’s wrong with the picture of Hollywood because everyone thinks that’s the way marriage is supposed to be!
LISA: Well you know they really just focus in on being the perfect person. Getting that perfect person. You’re going to get married and have the perfect wedding. He’s going to have a perfect body. You’re going to have a perfect body and they focus everything in on the beginning. But the truth is and I’m going to put three things out there. Number One: You know it isn’t about finding the right person. It’s about being the right person. And most people aren’t doing the hard work they need to do in themselves as individuals so they actually are attracted to the right kind of people. They’re actually needy and they’re like I need somebody to complete me. Well Jesus needs to complete you and then you need to figure out who you can work with, who you can multiply with, who you can grow with. But you can’t have a person meet all of your needs. They’re going to fail you. And Number Two. You know a marriage doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful. And too many people because of Hollywood they compare this Hollywood thing and they think man, I have a stupid marriage. My marriage is so flawed it’s horrible and then it creates a comparison culture. And you know as Theodore Roosevelt said that Comparison is the thief of joy. So they are constantly seeing things that make them feel like they have something less than what they really want. And then also marriage isn’t about marrying the perfect person. It is about actually perfecting YOU.
